I Am NOT My Hair

Being that I’m homeless for the moment and I didn’t want to turn my friend’s bathroom into Beanie’s Hair Salon, I decided to get a sew in!

I love this thang! It’s just so shiny and bouncy and fun lol! In the same breath, I’m really sad about it because I realize that the hair that is left out will be totally different from the hair that’s braided.

Now I’m not one of those people who went natural and think their hair is the passage to heaven nor am I one of the people who hates my hair (even though it took some time to get used to). Truth is that I like to wear it big and curly and I like to wear it sleek and straight. I just wish my hair wasn’t so easily manipulated by heat. For instance…

UGH!!!

I’m SO over my ufckin closet!! It’s like I want to throw most of it away, get a sugar daddy and start all over again! On top of that I feel like when God was handing out the ability to accessorize I was off in the corner sneaking sandwiches or something. I hate it when I feel like I have NOTHING to wear and with me moving to a new place I don’t want to go up there looking like bussit baby #3.

If I could blink and see the items I want today, they would be…

 

IDK where mine went but I need another and AE has a nice one

It’s like I cannot find one of these to save my life…well not one under $170

Bittersweet

When I first moved to Atlanta I HATED it!! I remember calling my Dad in tears and we had conjured a plan for me to get and job and move back to Charlotte within 12 months. Now the same tears I cry are from the pain of leaving a place I felt was home. My how things have changed… There is so much that I will miss…

My first job as an engineer. The company way perfect by NO MEANS but it was my first chance and I met some great people there.

(the first pencils I’ve ever designed with )

(good bye card from my department)

Thrift Store Finds

I LOVE to shop the sales but I usually don’t make have the time to shop at thrift stores. I stopped by Good Will on the way to Concord Mills to see if I could come up on some winter clothes and I surely did!

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Ann Taylor sweater; colorful skirt *needs altering* (for next summer), Tahari blazer and a Polo tweed jacket.

How Do I Dress For Cold Weather??

Lately, I have a thing for sheer tops, leather jackets, and military styled boots. While looking around on Shop Style I realized that I might not be able to wear these types of items because it's going to be UFCKING COLD in the DMV!!! Either way, I like these individual pieces...I might just take the L on that top ;-)

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Boots by Sam Edelman
Jackets by Kristen Blake

Hair Are You These Days?

I was keeping this blog do document my hair at one point so I’m going to dedicate this post to show the different styles I have been wearing. I used a standard set of products on my hair and it never really varies.

Washing/Conditioning:

• Deva Poo Shampoo – this shampoo doesn’t lather (which is why I usually use too much) but it doesn’t leave my hair feeling like a clean glass table.
• Mixed Chicks Conditioner – At first I was like I’m 100% Negro but it turned out to be a pretty good conditioner
• BeeMine Conditioner – My FAVORITE conditioner!!
• Miss Jessies Baby Butter Crème – I don’t think there’s a better moisturizer but it’s expensive as hell. Every Christmas they have a buy one get one sale and the best (and only time) to get the products. It lasts so you don’t have to go broke trying to stock Miss Jessies.
• Bee Mine Herbal Serum with Sulfur (Kiwi Strawberry) – Sulfur doesn’t bother me and this smells like strawberry kiwi with a HINT of sulfur. I bought a squirt top so I can apply it straight to my hair.

Now on to the styles:

I usually wear my hair twisted

*Please excuse the one too many and really shouldn’t be driving look* It is INCREDIBLY time consuming but once it’s done my hand are out of my hair for at least three weeks. I am not a trained professional so I can’t really explain how I twist my hair; I just roll it around my fingers when it’s wet and it stays. I didn’t even know it had a name until someone asked me how to do it lol. It’s called a coil out. When I twist my hair I either use:

• Miss Jessies Curly Puddy (I wish I could eat that stuff) or
• Bee Mine Bee Hold Curly Butter – This product isn’t heavy so it usually leaves me with a frizzy look after about two weeks and I cool with that.

Here’s a link for the people who are interested in the proper way to do a “coil out”: The Proper Way to Do the Coil Out Method.

If my hair isn’t coiled, I usually blow-dry my hair and put a few slave plats in my hair and the next morning I have:

This is a favorite for the older generation of men. They love to tell me stories about the days were their hair looked like this. They always say: “Leave you hair just like this; never change.” Before I blow-dry my hair I use Jane Carter leave-in conditioner and when I plat it I use Jane Carter moisturizer.

Last but not least:

When I first got it straightened I felt so strange. I felt like I looked like everyone else and it kind of freaked me out. My hair felt too close my face and it just looked flat and dead….until I whipped my hair back and forth!! LOL! I usually just deep condition my hair, use a heat protectant (is that a word) and flat iron it.

My Stock is Like the DOW Jones…

Men are visual creatures and I get that; they’re shallow.  With that being said, I didn’t realize JUST how shallow visual they were.  I use myself as the example:

When I started college I was 5’1”, 95 pounds soaking wet and by every definition I was skinny. I would post a picture but who REALLY wants to go back that far. Anywho…fast forward to Summer 2008 when I moved down to Atlanta. For the first 8 months I ate at any restaurant whose name sounded like “Big Mama’s ____ _____”, “Southern Fried ____”, etc.  I toped off at 131 lbs and by all definition I was thick…and proud of it!! Life was grand!! I didn’t have to pay for anything, do anything, hell I’ve never been so lazy. AND if I put in a 10” Remy, ninjas would buck a U turn JUST do I didn’t have to pump my own gas #truestory. But when I got PHAT in the back I also got…..

FAT in the front and that was a problem that needed to be handled.

Two things happened after that: I went natural and I lost weight due to exercise and nutrition (S/O Bleeding Onions). These days all I can get are opinions instead of compliments; suggestions instead of valentines and although my hair is different and I’m lost TWO (or three lol) inches in my hips I just don’t know what’s different. The person hasn’t changed a bit; I’m still the same ‘ol GEE but I guess life is just a hot or not contest.  Now I still believe that I am nothing short of amazing (O_o) but I just say this to let the ladies know that the “beauty is skin deep” is a bunch of bull shit because even though I’m currently shaped like this:

(32-25-36) they really want you to look like this.

 

Does it bother me that I apparently look like shit now; yes. But hey….you can’t please everyone.