::this is a long one::
I have been thinking about this for a while now and as a woman I cannot figure this one out. I do not consider myself unattractive by any means and I usually get male attention when I am out from time to time.
When I had the sew-in the attention I received from males doubled. It was like I had a new swag!! L0L! I cannot deny that the sew-in looked good and of course it was a brand new look for me but I did not think that it made me look BETTER.
After that experience I sat down and wondered what response I would receive from men when I cut the rest of my relaxed hair off and only had naturally curly hair. How will I be perceived then? Will I still be as attractive, more attractive, or less attractive? Will the one I’m ‘with’ (L0L) leave me because I am no longer the person he first met?
Here is a post I found on another blog from a woman who gave up her naturally curly hair for male attention (her grammar is the absolute worst):
Ok, let me just get up on my soapbox!( shuffles, stumbles finds feet) I was natural from 2001 all the way up to 2006. it was long and very wavy, I loved it, BUT I found that I could not find a man. men thought it symbolized that I was worthy and a bit pious and not down a damn good time (this girl loves a good time!) they would always address me like they would address their grandmother. having my beneath the shoulder length natural hair was a turn off for them. so despite loving the look myself and feeling ashamed of compromising myself and my ideals I texturized it bone straight……. you know what happened almost immediately??? Guys who knew me on sight before were asking me if I was new in town, or if I only just started going out in the area. it’s sick to admit it and it’s shameful for me, since I loved my natural and miss it, but I like male attention and want male attention and that is what they want………… Trust me I am only alone because I want to be these days. It is sick, that some black men and women feel like this and maybe we all need to politicize our hair again so people can wake up. but me I am just human, principles are fine things……. loneliness is another. Please don’t judge me, if you have ever been truly lonely and hungry for love you will understand why I compromised myself.
Now I have never been the compromising type so I don’t see myself buckling from any pressure but the notion that it will make life ‘harder’ to some extent is saddening. Will it really be this way?
What is everyone’s opinion on this? I need some responses from men?
UPDATE: I think people took the questions I asked as if it's something I'm worried about but they're just questions I 'learned' to ask after reading other females' experiences with men and their natural hair. I just asked the questions in first person. I will be fine; believe me. A man is not going to stop this fro! L0L!!!
